Resisting Change?


Do you maintain behaviours that you know are detrimental to your well-being, but you’re resisting changing them?

Perhaps you even start doing things differently, but after a day of putting some effort you fall out and get back to the old, known ways.

Perhaps you become closed off, angry or defensive when change topic comes up.

If this is you, it’s your subconscious mind that’s putting up resistance. It wants to keep you in the known, safe zone as venturing to a new, unknown territory is intimidating.

Why would you want to break from this resistance in the first place?

Because your way to empowered, authentic, resilient and happy life is on the other side of it.

So how do you break free from the resistance?

1. Adopt a new healthier routine that doesn’t need a lot of effort in the beginning. Let’s say you want to start exercising; start with 10 minutes a day. If you want to eat healthier, skip only one fried meal and replace it with an acceptable alternative. If you want to stop people-pleasing, practice saying “no” where it’s easiest. Don’t strain yourself too much; if you are too ambitious, your subconscious will win. Neuroplasticity takes time.

2. Practice self-awareness. Practice mindful doing and communicating. Choose one person to whom you are in daily contact, and commit to communicating with awareness, to the best of your abilities. Children are perfect for this exercise, especially if you have a teenager in the house.

3. Endure through the discomfort without giving up. This applies to everything, from exercising, eating, meditating, whatever. When you want to get up from meditation, stay another few minutes. If you are craving something sweet and you need to have it now, give it another half an hour before you indulge. If you’re set to do ten burpees, and at seventh you want to quit, push yourself to do three more. If you’re learning a new skill and it’s too hard and progress is slow, remember that “practice makes it perfect” and continue to push through.

4. Practice self-compassion.

Repeat tomorrow.

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