Do you know that burnout has very little to do with external stressors but everything to do with our mental processes?
Stress is an inevitable part of life, and there will always be people and events that trigger us. Whether it’s your gossiping colleague, the fact that you cannot travel on vacation when you planned, break up with your partner, too much work to do, or any other thing you don’t like to see in your life. There will always be something in some aspect of life. It’s virtually impossible to avoid stress.
The chemical reaction of our bodies to stress is in its essence a survival mechanism; one we very much need to escape danger. In our modern way of life, however, we often tend to place too much significance on situations and stressors that are not life-threatening, but we make them seem so. We’d stress out most of the time when things are not aligned with our expectations; that creates a prolonged stress response from which we have little to no rest at all.
That is why the real way to prevent burnout and to recover from one is to understand what triggers us, in what way, and to learn what responses to these external stressors work best for us, while preserving our well-being through learning how to value ourselves the most and cultivating joy and happiness.
What we can easily do by ourselves is to change our possible unhealthy eating habits, exercise regularly, meditate daily, practice self-awareness, and explore where we sabotage ourselves.
Probably the most valuable technique is to accept ourselves for who we are, with all our strengths and shadows (there’s no good and bad; that’s just a trick of our inner saboteur). Instead of worrying about how we seem to others, we might want to focus on inspired action “having eyes on the prize” and fun on the way; knowing where our boundaries are too.
Here are some questions to consider:
What’s stressing you out?
What stories you are telling yourself in this situation? What do you believe to be true?
Are those stories realistic or unrealistic?
Helpful or unhelpful?
Would you teach your stories and standpoints to others?
If you wish to discuss any of these ideas, just hit reply; I am listening.